Meet Ann Marie
Helping professionals build loving, supportive relationships – that last!
If you do not change your direction, you will end up exactly where you are headed.
– Chinese Proverb
I help people repair & protect their relationship, working mainly with people who are in a long-standing relationship that was once good but is now struggling. I offer sessions both to individuals seeking to improve their relationship or marriage, & to couples- online or by phone.
Right from being a child I was always interested in people & how they work & what makes them tick. When I was young, my mother seemed very unhappy & it was my greatest desire to help her with her difficulties. Sadly, that was before I had the skills & knowledge that I have now & I was never able to do that: she died when I was 24.
My desire to help my mother & my love of Psychology lead me to the work that I do today. When we are stressed out or overwhelmed by our difficulties, we can’t think straight-because the thinking parts of our brain close down. At times like those we all ideally need a wise friend: someone who’s been there but is not there at the moment; someone who is in our corner & has our best interests at heart; someone who is clear headed enough to help guide us out through the maelstrom of emotion.
My promise to you, if you work with me, is that I will be that wise friend in your corner, with your best interests always at heart & I will help you, to the best of my ability, to find your way out & back on your feet again, so that you can continue positively & joyfully on your life’s journey.
Some of the forks in the road in my own journey:
1) I decided to take the “road less traveled”, after my Psychology degree by choosing to train in a little known, solution-focused brief therapy because it offered the best training & evidence-base that I had come across and I wanted to become as effective as I could be for my clients.
I first came across HG Therapy about 20 years ago when I was working for Glasgow Simon Community. Colleagues told me about it. They said that it was very impressive & urged me to look into it (they knew I had a degree in psychology).
I was initially skeptical as I had never heard of it but they convinced me to investigate further- and, as they say, the rest is history!
2) At a turning point in my own relationship, many years ago, I rediscovered the work of Psychologist John Gottman & applied his research findings to my own relationship with great success.
This eventually led to my current work with couples and individuals having difficulties in relationships, based on combining Gottman’s research with my training in the human givens approach. I have found that by doing this I am having a lot of success in helping people turn failing relationships around. I recently wrote a book about this, available here.
I was born & brought up in East Yorkshire, England, UK and am the eldest of four sisters. My mother was from County Meath and I live in County Wicklow with my husband & fifteen year old twins (a girl & a boy).
I use Human Givens Therapy. Human Givens Psychotherapy is a modern talking therapy based on an up-to-date, understanding of the mind/body system from Psychology and Neurobiology. It starts from where you are now and is focused on getting you, as quickly as possible, to where you’d like to be. It combines a number of approaches to maximising wellbeing including:modern performance enhancing & motivational techniques. It also uses stories, metaphors & draws on ancient wisdom. As well as, in many cases, substantially reducing symptoms and distress, I can also as give you tools and techniques to help you to manage your difficulties better. (Read more about this approach here or see www.mindfullywell.ie)
I hold a BA (hons) in Psychology and a Post-Graduate Diploma in Human Givens Psychotherapy. I am fully trained, qualified & accredited in the most up-to-date, evidence based solution focused therapy methods (read more about this here and here). I have worked with people under pressure &/or in distress for more than thirty years, helping people get their lives back following major set-backs and am a founder member of MindFully Well, a network of therapists across Ireland specialising in treating emotional & stress-related difficulties, using only up-to-date, evidence- based methods.
I studied Psychology at Bangor University (University College of North Wales) before gaining a distinction in HG Psychotherapy in 2002.